Disagreeing Generously

A few years ago, I was visiting Oxford University in England and found myself in an interesting conversation with one of the college presidents. I asked him, “What makes for a good student here at Oxford?” He replied, “One who can make a compelling argument regarding his or her point of view and also generously articulate the opposing points of view”. Generously articulate an opposing point of view! His response reminded me of a professor in law school who said the best attorneys are those who can argue both sides of a case well. 

That comment from the Oxford official has stayed with me. Often in our world today, we are really good at knowing what we want to know and understanding what we agree with, but rarely do we take the time to understand … really understand … opposing or differing points of view. In our sound bite way of practicing discourse, we actively discourage a fuller understanding of topics. In our desire to convince people we are right we attack, ridicule and belittle, rather than seek understanding. 

But I believe as Christians we have a higher calling! Paul writes in Romans, “… show respect for what everyone else believes is good. If possible, to the best of your ability, live at peace with all people.” Paul encourages us to show respect, if not agreement. As Christians we must practice respect and understanding, especially when we don’t agree with others. Our calling is clear. We are to be the ones to initiate living in peace, not waiting for others to agree with us first. Our ministry and witness is to promote the heart of Jesus. This simple truth will change you … but it will also change the world.

Together we are the hands and feet of Jesus,

Brett